Thursday, March 15, 2012

Goodbyes are hard

Most importantly, say a prayer, light a candle, do what you do for Dena and her brother Jimmy. He revealed that he has stomach cancer and kept the diagnosis to himself for a long time. He believes he may be nearing the end of his life and she has left for Indiana. She wants to talk to the Doctors to confirm his diagnosis and find out what stage he may be in. She hopes to intervene and force him to get some medical care. He has refused medical help to date. She also wants to bring him back to Virginia and has my blessing. The question remains as to whether he will comply.

So say a prayer that Dena can find the answers to her questions and enjoy her time with her brother (even though he tends to drive her bat-shit crazy.) And for Jimmy that somehow he is mistaken and/or can be healed. If he can't, we want him to be as comfortable and happy as possible. I will be praying for them too.

While I await news I am laying around wondering if this what recovery is supposed to be like? I am currently worshiping at the altar of the mighty heating pad. My insurance company and, originally, my doctor expected me to be good-to-go in 3-4 weeks time. I expected to need more time with the infection but did not expect back and abdominal pain 1 month post-op. Heating pad and 800mg of ibuprofen back pain.There's not much info out there but everything I've read says it's either serious or due to the back overcompensating for messing with the abdomen. We'll go with the latter but I'd really like it to stop. Anyone else experience this? Can you share your experience?

I'm still quite tired too and find myself sleeping about 12 hours out of 24. I made a great list of stuff I'd like to do but haven't been able to tackle it. I have managed to get the kids to and from school, cook a simple dinner, let the dogs in and out and sweep. That's not much and why I did not attempt the trip.


  1. Anonymous3/15/2012

    I'm so sorry about Dena's brother. Cancer is horrible and each person's cancer really is their own. I used to get so frustrated with my sister and how she handled hers. Hopefully, everything will end in peace, no matter what the situation.

  2. So sorry to read about Dena's brother. No matter what a person's decision is regarding treatment, they still need support.

    As far as your recovery, I have nothing to offer except to try to keep the faith that it will get better. After A's appendix burst it was months before she started to feel "right" again.